So you have swept me back, I who could have walked with the live souls above the earth, I who could have slept among the live flowers at last; so for your arrogance and your ruthlessness I am swept back where dead lichens drip dead cinders upon moss of ash; so for your arrogance I am broken at last, I who had lived unconscious, who was almost forgot; if you had let me wait I had grown from listlessness into peace, if you had let me rest with the dead, I had forgot you and the

A couple of weeks ago I read a book on attachment theory, and this line has been echoing in my head ever since: You're only as needy as your unmet needs. Yesterday I did something brave. I shared what my needs were, and when someone I loved was unable to meet them, I held a boundary for myself. I chose myself over a relationship that did not meet my needs. I am not at all angry at the other person, but I think that, had I stayed, I would have become resentful. I am trying to

I just heard something beautiful by the poet Hanna Leana Kuss: "Your regulated nervous system helps other people to heal." She also wrote this poem that speaks to how I want to parent. Love or Fear? fear says if i don't control this something terrible will happen love says i will stay even when i cannot control the outcome fear says if i don't intervene i will lose you love says i trust your soul and i trust mine fear says your pain is my failure love says your path is not mi

Yesterday was a good day. My son called my dad to see if he could drive him to Plum Island to go beachcombing. My dad agreed, and the two of them had a wonderful time. They even stopped at the "best restaurant in the world" on the way home - Panera. At home we examined the shells and did a little research. My son was duly impressed by bivalves: "They have gills?! They have a heart?!" I didn't feel like I was drowning in sadness yesterday, either. There are so many gradations